Hate Turned into Goodness & Awareness
This is a little embarrassing but if I’m going to try and be honest with you in all things motherhood and life, I have to share this with you.
I shared this on my personal FB page a few days ago and a few things were made abundantly clear.
No matter how much money you make, no matter how different the dynamic of “family” is in your home, no matter how you choose to parent, no matter how you choose to educate your kids, whether you’re a badass sahm or a badass working mom, the ulitmate goals remain the same.
*To raise good kids who will turn into great adults who will hopefully contribute postively to society.
*For us to continuously change for the better as people and to be the kind of parents they wanna come and visit when we’re old and gray 😉
*To be happy!!!
It’s been a crazy few months for me…physically, mentally and emotionally but things are looking up. I’m good now…I’m gonna be just fine.
With friends and family like mine…there’s no way I can ever stay down. There will always be hands on me to help me up when I am down, to pray for me when things are good and bad, and to smack me when I need to snap out of any madness I encounter.
I know how lucky I am.
I’m not going to stop writing…I’m going to continue my blog for the ones who enjoy it and appreciate it…and that’s that.
Thanks for taking the time out to read, laugh, cry and roll your eyes at me/with me 😉
Here’s to a good life. Here’s to better understanding love, honesty and grace.
March 6th 2016
I got some hate mail on my blog this morning…it stung a little.
Mike held my hand and talked me through it.
Mike: Look, we knew this was going to happen. This was inevitable. The truth is, there will be people who don’t like your blog and won’t be able to relate to your blog because your life is totally different from theirs. You don’t have to work meaning you don’t have to deal with the day to day BS that is dealing with adults and their drama all day and then come home to your screaming kids and try to be positive and want to engage with them. Your kids are in a small private school meaning their kids may not come home with the same issues our kids do. It’s great that you lost a lot of weight and got healthy but you’re able to work out 2-3 hours at the gym because you have the time to do it…a lot of moms don’t so they’ll resent you for that too…YOU think it’s easy to support other women, even women you don’t really know but that’s not the norm.
Kathy: I never saw it from that POV. But my whole point of my blog is to unite all women no matter what the hell they do…motherhood and being strong women should transcend all that crap.
Mike: I’m not telling you this to make you sad, feel bad or make you think you can’t help people. You absolutely can, you absolutely do. But just know that when your name is public and you share stories like you do, there are going to be those who will try and put you down and say you have no idea what you’re talking about because they can’t relate to YOUR life as a sahm and woman. You genuninely care about people…your niceness, it’s annoyed me since day one but it’s one of the things I love most about you. If you expect all people to treat you nicely like you treat them…you’re not living in the real world… Just focus on being you and just stay your true self…don’t cater to what you think people want to hear or read, keep writing what you know and what you believe in even if it’s not popular with the majority. Not everyone will like you and not everyone will understand you even if you don’t give them any reason to and that’s okay. You have an audience…and they appreciate the honesty. Don’t be surprised if some twist it, that’s just human nature. Don’t pay attention to the negative if it will stop you from pursuing your dream. Learn from it and move on. You shouldn’t have to explain yourself to anyone.
Kathy: This is Me You do you.
Mike: Yep, and if they don’t like it…who cares, they can do whatever they want..the voices of those who don’t know you should not affect you in any way. Life goes on.
Kathy: Thanks homie.
Mike: I love you, you crazy person. Now go help Matty, I think he’s having a nervous breakdown cause Josh put on his uniform first.