Life is Not a Competition…Step off that Pedestal.

I’ve talked to a lot of friends lately who are struggling…so this is for you…and for me.

– Life is not a competition.
– Happiness doesn’t come from money, a nice house, nice cars and nice things…it’s an inside job.
– You’re not a better parent than others.
– Your kid isn’t superior to others.
– No marriage is perfect so stop comparing yours – with those around you.
– Romance and encouragement of one another shouldn’t die in a marriage. I think it’s even more important to be even kinder when you have a family and as the years go by. It strengthens not only your marriage but also as a parental unit. So if you see your spouse being amazing and a great parent…let them know. It’s not about the big gestures, it’s about the little ones..and back it up with your behavior towards them…that makes it all the more meaningful.
– Just because you are married, it doesn’t mean you lose your individuality. When mommy and daddy are happy, the whole family is happy. Give your spouse some alone time…let them go enjoy their time with friends without making them feel guilty for it. Support it, we all deserve it.
– Don’t invest so much of yourself hating yourself because you don’t fit into societies mold of what’s beautiful or successful. Screw that shit. You are beautifully and wonderfully made…remember this. You do you…and do it remarkably as you should and deserve.
– Go after your dreams…there is no harm in trying.
– If you can dish it, you better know how to take it.
– If you have a habit of seeing fault and shortcomings in others, maybe it’s time you take a good look at yourself and try to figure out why you are in a constant state of standing on a pedestal that should be burned to the ground.
– Treat your partner with respect and don’t say things to make them feel bad or less of a woman, man, parent, and partner.
– Out if the billions of people in the world, they chose YOU to be their partner in this life. Treat them with the kindness and respect they deserve.
– There’s giving constructive criticism to help others become a better version of themselves and there’s just being an asshole…don’t be an asshole.
– You don’t have to be right all the time…open your mind to listening to others, maybe you’ll learn something and see things from a different perspective.
– Don’t expect others to behave in a certain way when you do not…that just makes you a fool.
– Please don’t corrupt your kids minds into thinking one political side is superior to the other and create hate in their heads at such a young age. I had a distraught Josh come home one day cause a classmate told him that a politician was evil and that anyone who voted for him was going to hell. HELL NO. Let them make up their own minds as they grow older and respect it.
– If you know there are negative things about you that need change, do something about it. Admitting it is one thing…make the change in yourself is an entirely different thing.
– Don’t underestimate your children…they hear and see everything…so when you speak to your spouse or partner, don’t say anything you wouldn’t want your kids to hear or repeat. What you do and say, they will do and say as children and in their marriages…the good and the bad.
– Don’t dwell on things that are out of your control. Focus on the things you can and do it well.
– Don’t compare your life to others. Your journey in this life is specific to YOU…and when you focus on being grateful for all the things you do have, you’ll find yourself richer than any billionaire out there.
– Never be afraid to speak your voice and speak your truths. Sometimes the ones who need to be heard are the most silent. Balls up and talk!
– Move on from friendships that no longer exist. Learn from it and take the memories that we’re good and happy with you. There are others who would love to call you friend.
– When you think of someone and have a profound love and need to let them know…TELL THEM. Life is so short and unpredictable.

Love you long time,

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